I am also watching this thread and the others.
Pluto, I understand you're upset. Fallon has been an important, good friend to you. The best thing you can do for her is let her take the time she needs to take care of herself - that's being a good friend to her.
Just like offline friendships, friends online can get into fights and have miscommunications. Sometimes you need to take a break from each other or from the community, just like how if you get into a fight with an offline friend you might not want to see them until you cool down or simply might need to leave the room for a few minutes to collect yourself. Taking a break is a super healthy thing to do, it's what I always recommend doing first and foremost if someone has said something you found upsetting. The most important thing is your own mental health, and if things on the forums start to affect that negatively, please take the break and/or don't pressure someone into staying if they need to take a break.
I highly, highly recommend everyone read Galaxian's post here: /353832, he writes very eloquently about online communication.
To prevent this from continuing to escalate I'll be freezing or removing any posts on this topic for today. Those that need to take a break deserve to without worrying about the conversation getting out of control while they're gone.